Everyone talks about daddy’s girl and women with daddy issues, but rarely do we hear of the impact that absent fathers have on daughters. A research paper showed that girls who grew up without fathers experienced puberty earlier than girls who did, and actually had earlier menstrual cycles. ‘According to research, girls who grow up without a father in the household tend to hit puberty earlier than girls with a present father, with studies showing a link between father absence and earlier onset of puberty, particularly in breast development and pubic hair growth.’
But there’s much more than those factors that men should take heed of. In fact the research outlines a list of dangerous characteristics of women without a father figure. That lack of paternal stability can be most damaging.
It begins by stating, ‘A woman who grew up without a father figure or a strong father figure often carries unresolved issues that can make her difficult, unstable and dangerous to deal with in a relationship.’
In the very same way that boys need that authority of a father to stabilize and shape their lives, so does a girl. The difference is though, a woman who didn’t grow up with that father figure, may grow up having no respect for authority from any man.
She had no guiding force in her life, no man to show or influence her in a positive way, so when a man eventually comes into her sphere to start a relationship , he’s met with resentment , hostility or lack of respect from her. “Who do you think you are, telling me what to do?”
Without a stable father figure, she often lacks emotional stability. We’ve often seen women with dramatic mood swings, erratic and unstable behavior.
Another drawback from having no father figure is a strong need for validation. Because she grew up without masculine love and approval, she constantly seeks validation from men, making her clingy, insecure and always seeking attention. Men always have to tell her how great she looks, how beautiful she is, how smart she is, how fantastic her clothes are, as that is the fuel that feeds her aura. ‘Mirror mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all?’
That also comes with deep seated trust issues, as she may have difficulty trusting men. After all, her father wasn’t there from the beginning, or abandoned
her when she was young, so in her mind, that’s how all men are. “You men are all the same, my father left me and my mother and you’ll do the same to me.”
Many of those women who grew up without fathers are fiercely independent, priding themselves on doing everything on their own, and in effect having no need of men. “I grew up with no man in my life from I was little, so I can continue that trend.”
You may have heard the term, ‘women love bad men.’ Many women without father figures gravitate towards toxic, unreliable and abusive men and avoid stable, good men, just because they love the drama.
The influence of a father on the life of a young girl can also be priceless, that strong masculine figure and influence plays such an important part in her life.
Many women tend to marry men who are like their fathers. At weddings, it’s the father who gives away the bride, but there is also a danger of women substituting their fathers with their husbands. In effect, she marries a man but also sees him as the father that she never had. That not only emotionally stresses her, but puts undue challenges on the husband who has to fill the roles of not only spouse, but father as well. He cannot be both.
It’s difficult for some men to understand all the challenges, and often impossible to tolerate. But in many cases it stems from a deep rooted factor, that of females who had no fathers.
At no point in their lives were they ever referred to as daddy’s little girl, or had someone to love, admire and respect and say, “That’s my father, my hero”
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