Men are loved, hated, reviled, cursed, despised, wanted, sought after, chased away, yet chased after by women. Women seem to be so confused when it comes to men, that either they don’t know what they want, or don’t want it when they have it.
We often see many attractive women out at functions, either by themselves, or in a group. Whatever, there they were, all dressed up with no man beside them. It is a common scenario, and while I would not dare to ask them about their plight on that occasion, I have spoken to them at different times about their manless existence. Usually the response was the same, “I just can’t find a good man, I want a good man, why can’t a good man come into my life?” A good man,a rare breed
Well, good men are rarely born, but are made. A young man growing up has to be moulded the right way, steered in the right direction if he is to become a good young man. There are a few parents who recognize this and pass on these values to their sons. The mothers make sure that the boys are able to cook, sew on buttons if needs be, wash and iron, and generally take care of themselves.
A good man has manners, and that too has to be learned and cultivated from an early age. I heard stories of young men coming to pick up young ladies that were simply horrifying. One parent told me how this young man drove up to his gate to attend his daughter’s sweet sixteen party. The lad was dressed in a wash rag type of tee shirt, torn rolled up jeans, uncombed hair, and more rings through every part of his body than a circus freak.
A good man respects his woman. I always find it strange how many American black males have this habit of calling their women bitches and ho’s. Caribbean men don’t use those terms, but the lyrics of some of the songs are oftimes worse. This lack of respect towards women makes you wonder if those guys were spawned in a test tube, motherless. But then again, you’ll say that some women welcome it.
A good man has etiquette, and good etiquette goes such a far way and is sought after by many women. Many ladies expressed how it’s so refreshing when a man takes them out and displays good etiquette. He opens the car door, holds the door open for her when entering a building, pulls out her chair, offers her food and drink, generally makes her feel comfortable and secure.
And that’s another thing, a good man takes out his lady, and it doesn’t have to be anywhere fancy either, but most women love to dress up and go out once in a while. That’s why going to the movies is still so popular, even though we have cable and internet.
A good man has eyes only for his woman when he’s around her. She must feel special, he can’t be with her yet ogles other women. As long as he’s with her, she must be the one and ignore other flirtatious females. A good man must deal with only his woman and nobody else. .
“I want my man to only be with me alone, I don’t want to share him with any other woman,” A good man commits.
Women are forever seeking this rare breed that somehow keeps slipping from their grasp. Some women meet good men who eventually turn out to be dogs, while others just can’t seem to meet even a hint of a good breed. Others caught the rare man but couldn’t hold on to him, as their jealousy and insecurity drove him away. Still, there are others who will never stop looking for this rare breed, the man who will fulfill all their needs, their desires, their wants, their obligations.
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