Pretty Privilege

Remember the evil queen from the fairy tale who would constantly gaze at her mirror and ask the question, “Mirror mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all?”

Then on the male side there was Narcissus from Greek mythology who was so obsessed with his looks that he would constantly stare at his reflection in a pool until one day he leaned over too far, fell in, and drowned.

Being pretty, beautiful, gorgeous, ravishing, has been at the forefront of our consciousness from the dawn of civilization. And true, different cultures have different standards and measures of beauty.

People who are deemed to be pretty seem to get certain privileges, a foot in the door, an advantage, so to speak. Hence the term, Pretty Privilege.

A pretty privilege will get some women hired for a front desk job at a luxury hotel or any such establishment that interacts with the public. Very few firms will hire a woman who looks like a troll to be their receptionist at the front desk in their lobby. It’s an unfortunate but harsh reality, for even though the not-so-pretty woman is equally qualified for the job, it’s the gorgeous one who will get employed.

Having a pretty privilege will get some women noticed by men and even get them married too. A rich man will spot a beautiful waitress in a restaurant and whisk her away and marry her. But here’s the caveat, if she has nothing else to offer, then that pretty privilege will expire and he’ll move on to another pretty face. Remember, pretty women are a dime a dozen, and as the saying goes, ‘for every beautiful woman out there, there is some man who got tired of her.’

That being said, there are some men who like having pretty women to profile with, arm candy they call them, so sometimes the pretty privilege will work in her favour.

Still, looks without substance mean nothing, and there are countless pretty women who are miserable, unhappy and alone without any meaningful relationship, for it’s only their looks that they have to rely on.

A pretty privilege will let a woman sweep a man off his feet, and drive some men so insanely jealous that he can’t stand it if anyone else looks In her direction. This usually happens to men who aren’t used to having a pretty woman, so when they do happed to get one, it’s as if he’s struck gold.

What about the men though, what about the pretty boys, do they get pretty privilege too? Well, not so much as far as looks go, even though a handsome man may get the initial nod over an ugly man in some situations. But if that ugly man has money, then he’s suddenly extremely handsome and appealing.

But looks aren’t that essential for men, as there are many male movie stars who are in high demand for their acting ability and not for their looks. Morgan Freeman isn’t a handsome man, yet he’s arguably one of the greatest actors ever.

Most female movie stars have to be beautiful though, and it’s the pretty privilege that got them cast in the starring role.

What a man needs though, is charisma, allure and sex appeal. It’s called the Kavorka from the Seinfeld TV series, the lure of the animal that draws women to those men. And that’s why some men who aren’t particularly handsome, still manage to have a history of beautiful women.

In contrast, have you ever noticed how some men are as handsome as Adonis, built like Samson, but can’t keep a woman? That’s because they have no allure, no appeal, no Kavorka. All they have is money to attract and hopefully hold the woman. But without it, he has nothing. That’s why many rich men are cheated on by their wives, the money alone isn’t enough.

So women will get a pretty privilege, while men will have that lure or a money privilege. Whatever gets you in the door, the trick is to make the most of it once you get in. 

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