FAMILY FEUD: When You Can’t Take Money With You, Others May


Wanting other people’s things is not just confined to taking from the living, but also from the dead.

decem“Cartoon-Dec. 2019” People have always desired what other people have and even go as far as to destroy them for their wealth. But why destroy them, why go to all that trouble when you can simply wait until the person dies then claim what they had as your own?

If you can wait, so be it. After all, they can’t take it where they’re going. What’s true, is that even after departing this life, people who are supposed to be family and loved ones will still be taxing you for what you left behind.

The fights, quarrels and even mayhem and murder that take place can be terrible. I was exposed to this at an early age, as a friend had just lost a grandfather. When the will was to be read, it was a scene that I will never forget. All the relatives flew in from near and far and descended like vultures. In typical fashion, they circled the carrion and waited for their pound of flesh.

With bated breath they held their breath, only to have their breath taken away when the will was read. The old man continued his crafty ways even after he departed. He knew his grown children well and treated them accordingly, knowing how they would react as he left what he thought was appropriate for each. For one daughter he left a house, for a son he left a rocking chair. For yet another child he left lots of money, but for another, a dining table.

You can just imagine the pandemonium that broke out at that reading, as those adult children that got little, felt cheated out of what they thought was their legacy, even though they had neglected their dad and had no time for him while he was alive.


Things left can cause so much trouble for the living and often brings out the worst in people and shows them up for who they really are.

 Many developed countries are notorious for this, quietly killing spouses for insurance money.

In some cases, one spouse learns that he or she is the beneficiary of an insurance policy and then hastens the demise of the partner.

“Honey, guess what? I took out a policy for two million dollars U.S. and made you the beneficiary.”

“That’s great honey. Back soon, gone to the farm goods store.”

Farm goods store? Hmmm, weed killer, rat poison?

No wonder they say it’s not good to tell people who is the beneficiary of your insurance policy that they are.


Passing away and leaving things behind can be a blessing or can be a curse. Some may take it and squander it, while others appreciate it and put it to good use. Many parents leave a thriving business to their children, only to have it destroyed by incompetence and greed.

Many children treat the windfall like it’s the lottery, and spend too much without making plans for development. Conversely there are stories of wealthy people leaving nothing for their children, saying that they should create their own fortune in life.

In ancient times some wealthy persons actually tried to take it with them, as the pharaohs of ancient Egypt did. They were buried with their wives, concubines, slaves and wealth in order to have a wonderful afterlife. Who says that you can’t take it with you?

There’s this joke about this man who insisted that he be buried with all his money. So his wife simply wrote him a check and buried him with it. He certainly took it with him.

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